We all know it takes guts and creativity to fight for justice. But how often do we put those same qualities to work in our most intimate relationships? To be the change we want to see—both out in the world, and in our closest connections—we're inviting community members to join us in reading Dean Spade's Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together. This series is co-facilitated by Lauren Miller.

Use promo code BEHOLDEN to save 10% on the book at checkout. Firestorm will make copies of the book available at no cost for participants who cannot afford to buy one.

"This book dares us to decide that romance is not separate from our politics of liberation and resistance. Relationships are a place where we can practice our principles and values, rather than acting out messed-up cultural scripts fed to us by corporate media... We need each other so badly right now. We must learn how to come together in love and resistance in this fucked-up world."

Reading Schedule

We'll be dividing the reading into six sessions, corresponding to the sections of the text. Each will roughly stand on its own and you're welcome to join in whether or not you've attended previous sessions.

• Feb. 10th – Introduction & Dominant Culture's Scripts Are Still Shaping Our Relationships (pages 1-76)
• Feb. 24th – Stuck on Autopilot: Swinging between Numbness and Temporary Highs (pages 77-127)
• Mar. 10th – Falling in Love and Losing Your Mind: The Romance Cycle (pages 128-184)
• Mar. 24th – Encountering Fear, and the Courage to Say Yes and No (pages 185-224)
• Apr. 7th – What Are We Fighting About?: Communication and Repair (pages 225-263)
• Apr. 21st – Revolutionary Promiscuity—Getting Free Together & Conclusion (pages 264-326)